Monday, October 20, 2008

Making Up After Breaking Up!

Advice for Breaking Up; and How to go about making up

If your relationship is stormy right now then it is possible that you may be on the point of breaking up and all it would need is the final push in that direction. The final straw may be a misunderstanding or jealousy and then in anger you part your separate ways. Trouble is afterwards you realize that you are truly heart broken and your partner really was your soul mate. After you have broken up, you first need to decide if the relationship was suffering because of your own issues, including behaviors or was it something that your partner does that makes it g hard to stay together. In any relationships, people change; needs change and when we get to a point of no return, we can often search inside ourselves to see if the problem in the relationship lies within ourselves. Love however cannot just be turned on or off and funnily enough for some couples breaking up and making up even strengthens the relationship.

Rescuing your relationship

There is even a song ‘Breaking up is Hard to Do’ because it can be a heartrending and painful experience. Relationships are after all based on trust and understanding one another and you may have been together for some time now, and you thought everything was hunky dory in your relationship because you did after all trust and understand one another. What went wrong and what cause the breaking up of the relationship are questions now whirling in your head. If you wish to return the relationship to a good solid footing it will mean making up and this means that either you, or your partner need to find a solution to deal with the problem. Both of you may be waiting for the other to make the first move and the result is that neither of you will. Perhaps you feel the other was the cause of breaking up so why should you make the first step to making up?

How to Make Up after breaking up.

Determination to rescue your relationships is the first step to successfully making up again in your relationship. Foundations that are based on stability will offer a rewarding, long-lasting relationship, while the opposite is true and this leads to breakups. Therapy to repair the damage is also a good idea, but if you can sit down and discuss your own problems together this is the best solution of all. The key to powerful relationships after all is effective communication. Before you get to the point of making up after breaking up though, the sensible thing to do is look up some information on the best ways of approaching repairing a relationship.

Incompatibility between partners is one of the biggest reasons for breaking up and if you are both uncompromising the making up may not be possible and trying to can even end I up in disaster. You both have the options of working through the incompatibilities by making compromises and sacrifices or getting out of the relationship altogether. The saying goes that true love conquers all is only partly true. Getting your Ex back if you truly love her and believe your soul mate is really worth the effort. Pride is one of the reasons that making up will not happen after breaking up and if this is the case with both of you then the relationship is lost.

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