The Guide That Saved My Marriage

She Gambled Away Our Life Savings But I still Love Her

I should have known that my wife would become a gambling addict the first night we decided to treat ourselves to an outing at the casino. The look in her eye, the feverishness of flitting from slot machine to slot machine, the extreme disappointment when it was time to leave; (when I just about had to carry her out to the car) were all signs I just ignored. We have been together for quite a few years and enjoy a very loving relationship and I know my wife very well; or so I thought. No matter how long you have been together there is always something you will never know about your partner, no matter how much you are in love. After she gambled away all our life savings we almost parted after an ugly fight, but fortunately I was able to get the right advice to stop that from happening.

No peace of Mind Financial backstop.

I have always believed that everyone should have at least three full months salary as a backstop in case things go wrong. Its good saving for something special or your Golden Years. It is also comforting knowing money is there for a crisis now isn’t it! I trusted my wife with all the credit cards and savings accounts which she kept in her purse, and had the peace of mind that there was quite a substantial sum of money growing in my savings for darker times perhaps? After our visit to the casino my wife did ask me to go again, but after remembering the way she acted the first time I decided against it. I should have become suspicious when she never asked me to go again. Love is blind as they say, and I ignored it.

She started working late; overtime she called it!

My wife has a steady job she has been in for many years, and it is quite a responsible one as well where she also manages staff. When she came home late a few times in the beginning; telling me that she was busy with a large project which would mean working later, I also took it in my stride. ‘Don’t wait up she told me’ many nights, and I took to eating TV dinners or left over from the two or three nights of the week she was not working late and made dinner. What was great was the fact that she mostly seemed happier and fulfilled. Some nights the sex was even better than normal, fiery, and passionate as well. Little did I know she was eating into our savings and gambling up a storm! When her moods were great she had won money and that is when the sex was exciting, something I did not know till later as well. The days she lost money and looked down in the mouth I took it that she was tired from the project she was busy with at work.

The water heater broke, and when it did, I found I was broke with it.

The day I found out the credit cards were maxed and we were broke is when I needed cash fast to fix the water heater in our home. I called a contractor to fix it and when I wanted to use the credit card to pay there was insufficient funds. You can imagine how I went through the roof. My savings was also as dry as the desert and there was no money until next payday! A huge argument and fight erupted, and not even her tears and admittance of what she had been doing could cool me down. When n she threw a coffee cup at me that missed and went through the sliding door window it was the last straw I told her it was over. She must pack her bags and I would file for divorce. Family begged me to listen to reason because they knew we were meant for each together but I was having none of it!

Love is worth all the money in the world!

My wife moved back to her mothers and I fortunately never had time to see an attorney (truth is I could not afford one yet!). I went looking online for a do it yourself divorce, but discovered a resource that made me realize that Love is worth more than money.

I love my wife dearly, made up and we are now closer than ever before. She learnt her lesson as I did in paying more attention to our relationship. If I had not discovered the right advice as mentioned in the resource above then I would have lost who I consider my soul mate. If you really think you know your wife, husband, girlfriend or boyfriend, think again. Without good communication in any relationship, one day you may get a pretty nasty surprise that you were never prepared for!